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Dating a Nerd: A Straightforward Guide
This guide is for anyone who is dating a nerd, or would like to, and would rather understand what they love than guess at it. It covers showing interest, planning dates, listening and being clear about what you want. None of it is complicated, and all of it works better when you treat the person in front of you as an individual first.
Ask about what they love
Most people light up when they are asked about something they care about. Ask real questions about their favorite books, games, shows or projects, and listen to the answers.
Let them set the tone about the label
Some people are proud to call themselves a nerd and some prefer another word. Follow their lead, and keep any teasing gentle and mutual.
Plan dates around their interests
A bookstore, a board game evening, a museum, a movie you both want to see or a new game at home can all make a better date than a crowded bar. Pick something that gives you both plenty to talk about.
Be patient with the details
People who are passionate about a subject sometimes share more than you asked for. Listen, ask a question and share something of your own.
Be yourself, and share your own passions
You do not need to pretend to share every interest. Tell them what you love too, and be curious about the overlap.
Say what you want
Some people want a relationship, some want something casual and some are open to either. Say which one you are, and ask what they want.
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